(Please refer to Blog dated 2/14/2012 for reference to Part II)
Realities of Being the Caregiver:
- If a family member has been absent most of their adult lives- chances are they won’t run back to the fold in a crisis.
- No one can tell you what you must do; though they have the right to say what they won’t do either!
- If you never got along with siblings there is no reason to believe that this will be a bonding experience- thought often times- it actually may.
- Old family patterns die hard – the roles in the family will probably not change.
It is never okay to scream at your parents or speak in a patronizing tone.
- In some cases, not getting help from other family members is a blessing – their involvement may be far worse than their apathy or estrangement.
- If your parents never liked your spouse, don’t bring him/her along!
And the most important advice is for any kind of family discussion (no matter the age of the adults or children) is to:
Talk so your parents will listen. Listen so your parents will talk!
~ By, Barbra London, MSW, LCSW, LNHA